“Patterns driven by old hurt don’t go away easily. Building self-awareness is half the battle...you have to chip away at them with your intention so you can let the new you take the lead.”
~Yung Pueblo
I have figured out that one of my biggest triggers is not being seen. We all have these leftover childhood wounds that trigger us and, to live a more peaceful existence, we must figure them out. Without an understanding of why you are feeling what you’re feeling it (whatever “it” is for you),will continue to arise and drive your response...I know this from personal experience.
I ran errands last week; one was to our local meat market. I took my number when I entered the store and waited at the counter for my turn. There were two people working behind the counter; one was on the phone, and one was taking the most tedious order I have ever seen from a very elderly woman. The woman hung up the phone and immediately started talking to another customer who had walked up after me. She then started waiting on this woman. I was so hurt that I had been overlooked that my lower lip started to quiver. Immediately I knew that the severity of my emotions did not match the situation. Read that again: The severity of the emotion does not match the situation. That’s always a sure sign a button is being pushed. I walked closer to the woman behind the counter and asked if they were using the number system today. Startled, she said I am so sorry, yes, we are, and began to move to help me instead of the woman who had entered after me. To my surprise I said, “No worries. Go ahead and finish with her.” That, my friends, is a win for psychotherapy! When I was younger my response would have been a hot (probably nasty) mess.
What are your triggers? Your buttons? Are you aware of them? I have too much time on my hands and would love to hear what you’re working on.
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